Sometimes you just have to ignore the feelings and just do what’s right. It’s the right decision that counts in the end not the feeling.
A lot of times in a lot of situations, we tend to allow our feelings to dictate our choices thus determining the course of our lives.
That is we do more feeling than thinking
I’m not against having feelings but do they have to be the ultimate directors of your actions and thus life?
Feelings come and go and allowing them to determine which course your life takes means you’re headed towards a major breakdown
Come to think of it ,if Christ had focused on how He felt: the pain, disappointment, betrayals etc.
You and I wouldn’t be heirs of the father and co heirs with Christ by now
And just look at what happened when Moses vented his anger out on a rock contrary to the instruction God gave Him
He missed out on the opportunity to get to the promised land
Now let’s bring the spotlight to your life
Remember that time you were so angry at your sibling you spat out angry words which have scarred that sibling till now?
Or that fateful morning you insulted the conductor on the bus not knowing a member of the panel you were going to face was on the bus?
Then again you who cried and got that guy to marry you out of guilt though he said he didn’t love you and now your marriage is hell?
Does any of these sound familiar to you?
See I’m an evidence of allowing feelings direct the course of my life
There have been times where instead of attending lectures I rather chose to sleep because I was “feeling” sleepy
I ended up missing important lessons in some courses
Lessons which formed the foundation to foster understanding in the whole course
And it’s just by the grace of God that I didn’t fail those courses
This led me to the realization that indeed:
It’s no use losing a great friendship just because your feelings have been hurt by an action or words
Really it’s just not worth it clinging on to a relationship that is clearly going nowhere nor working just because you feel that aside the person there’s no one else
Neither does it make any sense at all to destroy property or hurt people just because you feel wronged or betrayed
And oh you sure can’t live life below what you deserve just because you’re too afraid to strive harder and discover the best you
Most importantly it’s a big loss to give up on God just because you feel He doesn’t love you or care enough to have come through for you
Just because you have feelings doesn’t mean they ought to rule your life
On the contrary since we can’t live without having feelings
We might as well just channel it to foster our progress in every aspect of our lives
For you who is constantly feeling depressed and irrelevant, why not let that feeling be converted into a determination to discover what exactly you can do
And for those whose anger can destroy property or human life, why not channel that anger unto that unyielding project and work at it till you get it right
You’ll realize that most of the struggles we face in our daily lives just need a lil of our negative feelings converted to positive for them to budge
So don’t let your feelings regulate you. Focus on making the right decision
And if the feeling is too strong at the moment, take a moment to calm yourself in order to make the right decision
Because ultimately the decision is what counts and not the feeling
See you on the flip side of life where we live by making the right decisions and not dwelling on how we feel…..
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